Best Friends?
Can your wife/husband be your best friend?
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Friday, January 07, 2005
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In a sappy watch-me-get-get-brownie-points-with-my-wife kinda way: yes.
In reality: no.
To say your wife is your best friend is frankly a cop out.
Speaking from the male perspective, your wife is the person with whom you should be the closest emotionally (and physically!). But the way you approach your wife is certainly different from the way you relate to your blissfully obnoxious, harmlessly crass, testosterone-driven and often-gaseous close male buddies.
If your wife is your best friend, I'd suggest that she is fulfilling two separate roles and your life is out of balance. The role of wife is so much more than that of just best friend. To equate them shortchanges the vital and paramount position of wife.
We need male best friends who understand us, our issues, struggles and interests in a different XY way and can relate to us accordingly.
--Andrew W.
This is an interesting question as my wife and I just brought this up last night. We both concluded that we were each other's best friend: the person we had the most fun with, longed to be with the most, and felt the closest to.
However, Andrew has a very good point that I worry about a little bit with us. You see, the reason the conversation came up was because Jenn was frustrated with one of her very good friends. One that she would normally call the best if it weren't for her frustration. They haven't seen each other for a long time, and after seeing her recently, she realized that she found her friend could be more annoying and frustrating than she remembered, and that made her a little depressed since she didn't feel she had anyone close other than me.
I think what I'm trying to say is this: my wife is my best friend, and I hers, but I agree with Andrew that we should also have friends aside from our spouse that we can call our best friend. You need someone to do guy things with that understands the guy side of you, and you need someone to bounce guy things off of when you have guy things on your mind. That's something that my wife and I don't really have, and we've been feeling it a tad lately.
A lot of good points have been made on here already so I'll just say I agree with the speaker that said Yes, your wife/husband can be you best friend but its not a bad idea to have other kinds of best friends.
Its good to have different people you trust to hang with & bounce ideas off of.
Susan
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